For the past few weeks I've been studying up on literary agents, writing query letters, pitching novels, etc. It's been exhausting to say the least. My eyes are drier than sandpaper.
So I took a break from it. Threw myself into instructional design, other forms of writing, and reading for leisure. Needless to say, that timeout was what the doctor ordered. Taking a step back allowed me to see that I was putting too much pressure on myself. That I was stressing over minor details.
What I've learned over the years is that when we start majoring in minor things -- stressing and overthinking about the smallest of details -- we lose focus on what's really important. We lose the joy that we have for things we love to do. We get wrapped up in other people's opinions and forget to affirm ourselves. We wait around for permission instead of going for the things we want.
The moment you begin to feel confused, stressed, frustrated, or lost, I implore you to take a step back. Find an outlet to channel your energy in a new, productive place. It is through that redirection that you'll see other aspects of your life more clearly.
And who knows, the place where you once felt stuck or overwhelmed, may end up being an area where you excel, feel comfortable, confident, and renewed.
I wrote all of this to say: Don't allow yourself to get overwhelm by small details, by who will or won't accept you, by who will or won't approve you, by your own thinking. Understand that you're capable of whatever you set out to do. Take the action steps, and move on.
Don't dwell in one place, drowning yourself in ruminating thoughts. And, don't allow the perfectionist spirit to keep you from being productive. Put yourself out there, your work out there. You'll be surprise by the amazing outcome that'll come as a result.