134. Don't Choose Your Own Misery

There are certain people that we come into contact with who, for some reason or another, are always in a negative state. Every time you talk to them they are either complaining, gossiping, broke, sick, irritated, or any other negative adjective you can think of. I know this may seem so wrong but:

Run in the opposite direction of negative people as far as you can.

Again, that sounds so harsh, but let me explain. In many instances we are a reflection of people who we surround ourselves with. I don't care if you're talking about a childhood friend or cousin, be wary of those who never seem to have anything positive to say or do. 

Here's why being around miserable folks can be detrimental to your spirit:

1. You'll start adopting their negative attitude. If you hang around a person who has nothing positive to say long enough, you'll start to notice how their negativity will begin to infect you. I mean, what else are you going to talk about? They surely don't want to hear anything positive, so gossip, complaints, and murmuring will probably be a part of the conversation.

2. You won't experience spiritual, mental, emotional elevation. As I've said in a previous post, we all have room for improvement. If we didn't we wouldn't be human. Our whole entire life is defined by the growth and lessons learned in our respective journeys. That means we cannot stay stagnant. We have to learn and grow. How can you do those things if you're hanging around people who refuse to learn and grow themselves?

3. You will cut yourself off from opportunities. No one wants to hang around negative, destructive, pessimistic, ungrateful, complaining folks. I know I don't. If everything is seen through a negative lens, that means there's something within the spirit that is tainted. The key to networking and finding success on your current path is closely related to your outlook. And, a positive outlook makes all the difference between whether you win or lose.  

4. You make unnecessary enemies. I am fully aware that there will be people who don't like us for no sane, rational reason at all. However, hanging with negative people means that you can get caught up in creating enemies simply because of the type of attitude you give off. Although we won't please everyone, we don't have to go out of our way to be rude, hurtful, or condescending -- things miserable people don't mind putting into the atmosphere. Which leads me to my last point.

5. You attract negative energy to yourself. According to Newton's Third Law, for every action, there's an equal reaction. Whatever energy you put out into the world, it will have a way of magically showing up in our lives again. Hanging around a negative person means you'll experience those unfortunate reactions in some way, shape, or form. 

This is why I say don't choose your own misery.

Be mindful of the people you choose to associate with. If you need to overhaul your circle, don't be afraid to let go. Some people have only grown older and have not grown up. But you, my friend, have grown. And we can't always assume that people will grow with us. So, stay away from miserable folks. You already know how much they love company.