130. Give Yourself Permission to Fail

Give yourself permission to fail.

It's okay to allow your heart to break sometimes. 

Give yourself permission to cry. Let it all out.

Allow yourself to feel that shame, guilt, tension.

It's okay to be frustrated.

Give yourself permission to be awkward.

You're not alone in your loneliness, sadness, or isolation.

You're not the only one to feel down. 

Give yourself permission to feel all of your feelings. Write them down. Remember them.

However, don't internalize them.Then, forgive yourself. 

When we give ourselves permission to feel our emotions -- all of them and not just the good ones -- we begin to understand that part of being a human is having an emotion. To learn how to deal with our various emotional experiences, and to find triumph after trial and tribulation. 

Don't shy away from what you feel. I'm not suggesting we act on our anger, sadness, loneliness, or any other "negative" emotion in unhealthy ways. I'm suggesting we acknowledge those emotions that don't necessarily feel good because it's normal. It's a part of being human. It's a part of our experience. 

There will be some days that you're going to feel on top of the world and other days where it'll feel like the world is crashing down. There will be days where you will feel good about yourself and other days where you will be your own worst enemy. 

But, if we can learn how to accept what we're feeling, to forgive ourselves, and learn that every emotion is temporary and we have the power to mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and sometimes even physically change our situation, we'll be armed with the necessary artillery to pull ourselves up from our various slumps and keep moving forward. Even on those days when we might not feel like push along. 

I give myself permission to fail, to feel awkward, to feel embarrassed, humiliated, or to feel those disappointments. I understand that it's all a part of life, and just like there's a time and season for everything under the sun, I understand that in different seasons I may feel different things. That won't stop me from living. It's all a learning experience. I'm gaining new insights on life to help myself for future references or to help others when they may be down and need advice on how to lift themselves up. 

I am an overcomer and you are too. Give yourself permission to fail, study your missteps, and find a way to succeed. Emotions are temporary, and so is life. So choose to embrace and accept reality, but don't settle for wallowing in negativity. Acknowledge. Move on. 

Whatever it is, everything is going to be okay. The world will continue to turn. You can do this. Pick yourself up and keep moving along.