76. The Importance of Deeper Relationships

Before I get into this post, let me say how truly excited I am. Recently I signed up for an inspirational holistic success-oriented group called Breathe University. Today was my first Master Mind call, and when I tell you it was amazing, I really can't even begin to describe it. 

In essence, Breathe University is like a built in network of people who are serious about their goals, dreams, and visions. It is led by Dr. Eric Thomas, who I reference so much on the blog. Dr. Thomas and his team have been such a blessing, putting out videos on YouTube that really motivate and inspire people. If you haven't heard about him, I'd suggest starting with the video that shook up my world. 

I could go on and on about Dr. Eric Thomas, the Breathe University network, and the excitement I'm feeling, but I want to get into a topic that was discussed on the call this morning -- the importance of building deeper relationships.

I'm not going to lie. This is an area where I've struggle tremendously. For my entire life, I've pretty much been an introvert. I have three siblings, cousins I grew up with, and folks I've known since elementary school age. However, I won't lie, I'm not necessarily close with many people.

I'm not a person who regularly calls people on the phone "just to check up." I am not a social butterfly who likes to go paint the town red and hang out on weekends. I'm not the person people think of when they want to call to grab a quick bite to eat and talk about the latest reality show. 

I said all this to say: I have trouble sustaining meaningful relationships. And, I know I'm not alone.

If I'm being honest, this is one of those subjects that has taken me longest to learn. Growing up, I've always had a circle of friends, but I can admit, I never knew nor learned how to be a good friend. Some, if not most, of my friendships or relationships were dysfunctional, parasitic, fraudulent, superficial, selfish, or just plain short-lived. 

The main reason why I think I've had so many struggles in this department is because of selfishness.

It's not about calling people when YOU feel like it or backing out of an engagement just because you're too comfortable at home and don't feel like leaving the house. Relationships, especially the ones that are felt on a deeper level, is based on love. And, I'm not talking about romantic love, we're talking agape here. Unconditional, unmerited, genuine love and care for other people.

When you want to help other people and you pour into them, that's building meaningful connections.

  photo credit: QuotesGram

photo credit: QuotesGram

When your first thought is, "What can I give?" and not "What can I get?" then you're a step closer to sustaining meaningful relationships. If your thought is "I don't care if you're my friend or not," then we may be in an immature phase. That phase is built on a selfish notion that friendships are about connecting with people based on something you can get out of the deal. But, this "gimme" culture doesn't bring happiness at all -- only burdens. Loneliness. Superficiality. 

I actually heard this morning that when you move between earning $50,000 to $500,000 or moving from $500,00 to $5,000,000, money no longer satisfies a person like people think it does. It's the relationships you've sustained along the way.

There's a whole lot of rich, but miserable people, and as I've said before, I want my success to be holistic -- that means my relationships must reflect success too.

I know that I may write about this some more, especially since I know I have a lot to work on in this department. But, can I just celebrate for revelation and progress? It's amazing when you notice your growth as a human being. It completely changes your life. 

Here's to sustaining deeper relationships...